The issue she brought today is about her husband of four years…who seems to be getting more difficult by the day in a lot of ways. She has a son for her husband but her son has never met his paternal grandmother because her husband and the mother have not been on talking terms for the past ten years.
Even when the woman calls him on the phone, he will disconnect the call once he hears his mum’s voice. He is also not in good terms with his siblings who questioned his unforgiving spirit.
She communicates with her mother-in-law secretly and she sends the woman things too but she knows that if he ever finds out-she will leave his house.
In all the years they have been married, her husband never said SORRY whenever he hurts her, he will rather keep malice-until she begs him. He has also never said I LOVE YOU to her and what is driving her nuts now is that they moved into a new house and her husband insists on having a separate room-against her wish and pleas.
Once he enters his room, he locks his door every night. She has always been the one to go knock on his door TO BE TOUCHED. If she does not-he never bothers. This has become rather humiliating for her.
Her husband hardly goes out with her and when it becomes extremely necessary that they go out-he neither walks side by side with her nor hold hands with her. He is either in front (while she runs to catch up) or behind her.
He insists on them not having a domestic assistant in the house but he never lifts a finger to help her around the house-not even when she is pregnant. When they have issues, he hardly subjects himself to dialogue until he has kept malice (with her) for weeks and he can’t do without bringing up her past mistakes.
How does a Good Husband behave?
Almost like he sees nothing good in her. When she goes out, other men tell her ‘how good’ she looks but her husband never bothers.
She said that the only credit that she gives to him is that he has not womanized-to her knowledge and he has never hit her. But she is depressed in this marriage and wondering how long she has to put up with all these.
She is 32 years while her husband is 40 years old. She wants help and for ALL to look into this matter and advise her!
Post by Chukwuneta Oby